Dating A Girl Above Your Level: What You Need To Know

Dating A Girl Above Your Level: What You Need To Know 

As a man, dating is a whole new level of work, and I say "work" because that's really the essence of the masculine vibe. It's a new level of work because it’s a feelings game, which is quite different from the logical and action-oriented games men are used to. Dating a girl is actually an everyday job, whether it’s in the crush phase or the marriage phase. After all, what maintains relationships that have reached the marriage level is usually continuing to do the same things that kicked off the relationship in the first place.

Dating a Rich Girl

Now, let’s talk about dating a rich girl, like DJ Cuppy, for instance. She’s been born into a lifetime of privilege and fortune, so dating her is kind of challenging for anyone. Beyond the outer and external aura of privilege, which you have to get past, you still have to handle her character and then find a confident position afterward to lead the relationship.

Say you’re newly rich and just got into wealth. You’re probably just coming off that high, loving your achievements, and enjoying what you’ve accomplished while trying to build more. Well, she’s rich too and probably hasn’t experienced a high like yours—she’s got accomplishments too, but not at the same level as the nouveau riche. So, it would matter - but not much (riding a bicycle around your living room 45 times isn’t as challenging as driving an F1 racing car around a circuit 45 times, but hey, accomplishments are accomplishments... )

Say you have a rich father too and were born into a life of privilege. Well, she’s just a peer to you, and peers have their desires. She’s just one of many, and you can find a girl who suits your exact type without all the trouble over a public star. But the catch is, all girls kind of think they’re easy to date, so if you can’t comfortably date DJ Cuppy, maybe you can’t comfortably date anyone? (Ok..ok..this sounds like girl talk rather than guy talk.)

Say you’re a guy just out of the nigerian-styled struggles and gbas gbos, but you have high tastes when it comes to the fairer sex. If you’ve successfully kept your tastes to yourself without flaunting them to your friends (because... you’re just going to possibly be the group clown—a fancy word for "object of ridicule"— if you do), dating her is going to be a tall order, and that's why this is exactly for you.

You have heart, and you probably would walk around the earth on crocs just to have your heart’s desires fulfilled. Yaay! Mr. Eazi could also help you out with some tips, but remember he’s also hoping to hit the bull’s eye.

So, How Do You Go About It?

Her father bought her a Ferrari. Don’t try to rival her father because you can’t afford one. Plus, those nouveau riche and her peers in terms of wealth can probably afford one or something close to it. So, you can’t rival in material possessions, but you do have heart! Use that to your advantage.

You see, every girl’s feelings are primarily tied to the reality of her parents and siblings, then to friends, acquaintances, and work colleagues, and finally to her own desires. 

You might share a mutual love for giving back to those in need, but then she’s still going to have to introduce you to her parents. So, if you’ve got good character and would treat her better than they do, well, maybe?

But that’s another tall order because first of all, how have Nigeria and nigerians at your own level treated you? Remember, the way they treated you is how you’ll treat others (you only express what has been impressed on you..) If you get it, don’t forget it.

Well, if you have good character, then you’d probably have more appreciation for those who forged that character in you. Plus, the girls on that your level won’t even let you rest: “Are we not also beautiful?” or “What does she have that we don’t have?” or “He thinks too highly of himself, How demure!??” 

Honestly, if you can get past these feelings that spring up from these words, then Cuppy might just like your audacity.

Number two, don’t worry about the faces and pedigree of other males. Forget whether she dated a renowned boxer, a white boy, or a footballer who makes in a week what could take you 12½ lifetimes to make. Focus on yourself (if you have to dance the "focus" dance with your index and middle fingers, please do). 

Also focus on what you have to offer, and be smart about it. You could be the best chef your generation has ever produced—maybe you know how to turn eba with a broomstick, or you know how to make tea using ingredients from the bark of an iroko tree, cool!! But be aware of her likes—does she look like a foodie? Does she prefer eba to gelato? Be smart!

Number three, start attending places where the leaders are enlightened, new-age, and progressive types. They will be your eyes, and they preach possibilities too. They won’t laugh at your ambitions, no matter how odd they are. They will support you in prayers and fasting—they will decide if it’s 40 days or 40 months.

Number four, work on yourself as if you were working on her. You love her, right? Then how would you work on something you love? Work on yourself exactly like that. It could take some time for that work to yield results, but you won’t regret it. And if she ends up with Jesus, her first love, you’d still be happy about it as a person. You won’t be annoyed that you did all of that just for her, and she stuck to Jesus plus Jesus too suffered.... 

Finally, use what you have to get what you want. How? That’s the essence of working on yourself because by doing so, you’ll figure out exactly how to get what you want your own way. Countless messages and texts go through social media all day; many receive no real reply or answer. So, you’ve got to develop something that’ll make you stand out, and if you decide to go the social media route— fare-thee-well!

I started off by saying that relationships last based on the reality that, doing the things that started the relationship in the first place, over and over, is a key to its longevity. Working on yourself will give you lasting results, and if you have something a girl will remember you for, then that will keep you in her thoughts. But you’ve got to work that thing into existence.

The mentality that will make you attractive to her—you’re aware of it. So, go develop it and get her!!

Cheers!!!